So struck by this, "Yes! Exactly!" moment that I didn't even bother to write down whom it was from! I'm so sorry dear stranger. You said something that I've been struggling to form in my head:
"I think we have to fight for and derive satisfaction every single moment throughout our relationships. It is a constant balancing of reciprocal needs and ongoing adjustments for a better fit. At the end, whenever that is, you can do the satisfaction math and it may sum up to happiness."
{Relationships are work that's worth doing}
So, I'm fessing up. I took it, but I'm not sorry. Because seriously? Look at how lovely you are!
Lovely!
ReplyDeleteMade me think... the "happiness math" is more than addition and subtraction. The sum of satisfied moments is dwarfed by the emergent sense of happiness you get from having many good working friendships.